I was asked this question Saturday night by a young(er) girl than myself who found herself in the middle of a newly hatched romance. Her boyfriend is from the west coast and has that Tupac pride, as many west coasters do. He apparently has spoke at length about the beauty of the west coast and it’s perfect weather and some day moving back. Meanwhile, the girl is from NY and her entire family resides there, so moving isn’t something that has ever crossed her mind (and certainly not picking up and moving across the country).
My answer was quick, “Clearly I believe that you should live where you love… or else I wouldn’t be living in Connecticut.” She giggled. “But”, I explained, “I think you can have both. I don’t think you have to choose one or the other.” There are places in the world that no one can deny are beautiful and fun. Places where couples or families could set up camp and make their own life out of it with new surroundings, new neighbors and new paths. This choice, however, takes compromise. One or both parties making the decision to move together will have to compromise.
Some people are stubborn, and you will have to choose one or the other. People who are unwavering in their decision have already made their minds up that they will love where they live and not the other way around. The only way they get both is if the person they are in love with decide to stay where they love living.
I think there’s a lot to say about loving where you live. I have recently moved to a place that I’m not in love with, but for a person who I am in love with. It hasn’t been an easy transition at all because of not loving where I live. It’s actually the opposite of everything that I did love about where I was living. I belong in a city that has pace to it and life around each city corner you turn. Noises and people and music and art.